every person has their old people game of choice, I play mahjong, my sister plays solitaire, and my bf plays sudoku, what’s y’all’s old people game of choice
it’s easy to forget, so I’ll remind y’all: you can make fantasy versions of anything. yes even things you might not think about. like soil types. I am thinking of fantasy soil types right now
This post is what got me to start feeling like I was ‘allowed’ to just start wholesale inventing species and I want to thank OP for this it has enriched my world-building so much.
“C'mon Olympians it’s bedtime, time to go to your anti fuck beds!”
wtf is the “weight of one person”?
they’re acting like some of the athletes aren’t 95lbs and others 300lbs+
Yeah, you bring a good point. I know weighlifters and other fat athletes get treated like shit on the daily, but this is excessive
this is completely fake btw. these beds are intended to be recyclable and can hold up to 440lbs/200kg. there are no reputable outlets reporting on this “anti-sex” beds and the only ones that do are citing the tweet above. here’s another article disproving it like yes fat athletes get treated like shit and it’s important we talk about it but this whole anti sex bed thing is 100% untrue lol
mormon kids under the age of 18 being told their church is a cult
mormons 18-24 after they go through their endowment ceremony and receive their new name and secret clothing and learn the secret handshakes and passwords and realize everyone around them has been secretly doing this the whole time and now theyre going to be sent away from their family for 2 years where they will literally not be allowed to be alone for 1 second of the day except to go to the bathroom and they have no idea how to get out of what they just got into
one of the only perks of being a mormon woman is that i didn’t get my endowment at age 19 and i had a little extra time to mature and be out on my own. that’s all i needed to make a clean break and i got out at 21 before i wouldve gotten my endowment.
wait what? can anyone elaborate on this? because I had no idea this was a thing
basically when youre a mormon kid growing up you realize your church is a little strict but you’re like whatever. i have friends at church because i go to church 6 days a week and everyone around me is affirming that this is the right thing to do and we have special knowledge no one else has otherwise everyone would be like this. so youve gotta go teach them & it’s the greatest thing in the world to be a missionary. also the temple is beautiful and amazing and spiritual and holy and everyone wants to go there. but it’s a secret! :) because it’s holy and sacred
then if youre a boy and u turn 18 they’re like wow amazing!!! you get to go on a mission and be like all the great men around you!! and now you get to go through the temple! so #blessed!
and then you go through the temple and all the above mentioned SECRET CULTY SHIT happens (EXPLANATION HERE http://mormoncurtain.infymus.com/topic_templeceremonies.html) and youre shipped off to a strange place where everything you eat, wear, go, listen to and do is controlled, and you’re not allowed to talk to your family or friends (except through a once-a-week email) and you literally are being watched by your companion at all. times.
some might say “you can leave at any time” but consider that i never went on a mission and i never went through the temple and i still consider leaving the mormon church the hardest thing i ever did. you have no social network outside the church. you are lacking major knowledge and skills. you have to grapple with the fact that you may never see your family again.
I’m reblogging this again bc I have Thoughts.
Leaving is such an isolating experience. No one inside wants anything to do with you anymore and no one outside understands the scale of messed up that Mormonism is. Like it’s easy to point and laugh at the ridiculousness, but it’s literally a cult. There’s so much trauma involved and there’s trauma in leaving.
People on the outside don’t understand how hard it is to leave. I grew up where all my friends were catholic and are no longer religious and they’re like “well everyone hates church, you just stop going” but Mormonism isn’t like that at all. For starters I had to get a lawyer involved to leave and then the ostracization from the entire community that nurtured me growing up was just the cherry on top. It’s effectively being shunned. Everyone you were forced to call sister and brother growing up no longer wants anything to do with you. And you deserve it, because you shouldn’t have fallen for the anti-Mormon lies.
Leaving The Church was the hardest thing I ever did and my family accepts me so I’m a lucky one. But they still ardently adhere to the institution that hurt me and has resulted in the deaths of people I love. I will never understand.
“There’s so much trauma involved and there’s trauma in leaving.”
It’s easy for people looking in from the outside to forget this. Thank you for the reminder. Can anyone recommend resources for young Mormons looking to explore their options?
Please note: this post will be directly addressed to those hypothetical young Mormons
If you know you’re ready to leave, use quitmormon.com. It’s run by the guy from reddit who is now famous in exmormon circles for offering absolutely free legal services to anybody who needs help leaving. You can give your church id number if you know it, but it’s not required (I never memorized mine, and I sure wasn’t going to ask for it). He takes care of everything. This keeps TSCC (the so-called church) from getting all your latest info and keeps them from hassling you or harassing you. They have to talk to your lawyer instead. Pre 2015, it felt almost impossible to try to leave, but it’s a lot easier now! The years of picketing General Conference to force an excommunication trial are over!
Find a support system. Lean on your friends that have never been mormon, any family members who left, anyone you know who left. I’m an exmormon happy to answer any questions, and I’m sure there are plenty others in the notes who would be super willing to be supportive too. Exmormon groups are many and varied now, and it’s best to find the one that vibes for you. There’s a subreddit that’s popular, but I personally used - and I know this sounds weird, since I don’t have kids - a forum called Mormonism & More on the site babycenter.com. It was started several years ago by some mormons who had questions they weren’t allowed to ask on the normal mormon board (because that board required uplifting, mormon-approved answers at all times). It’s since shifted to ex-mormons or people who want to leave but can’t right now because of family situations. Even though the threads were years old, I spent weeks on that forum, reading about what other people had gone through and how they got through it, and to me, that was super helpful.
Research the culty stuff at your own peril. I liked learning about that stuff for a really long time, because I felt learning about all those secrets (I especially liked learning about the truth of the Book of Abraham) … it helped me feel valid in my choice. It helped me keep in mind that this was something that I had escaped, something that had wanted to hurt me. Missing your abuser doesn’t mean you should go back, it means you should keep moving forward. Missing your cult has the same solution. Lots of people fell for the “we’re totally not a cult!” line by TSCC. Some of them will not offer sympathy. If you want to watch the hidden camera videos of endowments and other temple stuff, I would super super recommend you have a trusted friend watch them with you. And bring comfort food. You’ll probably need it.
TSCC put out a series of essays on controversial (read: faith-killing, eye-opening, omg how could I have ever supported the people who did this) issues in mormon history. They are the Orthodox LDS pre-approved responses to a lot of the more incriminating accusations that have been leveled at TSCC over the years. They should be hosted on TSCC website somewhere, and would have been posted around or after 2015. They may reaffirm your faith now that you know TSCC’s defense, but they may push you right out the door. (Or break the shelf? Do Mormons still use the shelf analogy, or is that retired now?)
Lots of mormons become atheists after leaving. Many join mainstream xian churches. Some become witches, some study every religion they can get their hands on, some try to go back and realize all the magic (or holy spirit, if you prefer) is gone. Don’t think you have to know right away. Some people throw away or burn all their mormon stuff, some people keep it to show their kids, but again, you don’t have to make that decision right away. Some people call TSCC a cult after they leave, myself included, but you don’t have to if it makes you uncomfortable or it it doesn’t feel true to your experience.
Look up religious trauma syndrome. It’s real. The pain you will probably feel is real, the grief you will probably feel is real, and in many ways, you may have to mourn the death of what you were always told Life Will Be For You.
And learn that the world is not half as evil as TSCC told you. Your coworkers who drink a beer at the end of the day are not evil or abusive. Your friends who wear sleeveless shirts are not evil or promiscuous. You’re allowed to wear short shorts! You’re allowed to drink coffee! You’re allowed to ask questions in a faith community without being silenced or condemned! You’re allowed to not want kids! There’s a lot of unlearning here.
TLDR? You have options. You have freedom. Find nonmormon friends who will support you. Be kind to yourself.
People joke about Mormons but this is the first time I’ve seen anything at all directed towards people who need to get out.
I had a high school friend turned college roommate who left, moved 4 hrs away, and I had to lie to people who showed up repeatedly that he wasn’t home. That’s just the smallest outside perspective of this. They kept coming.
It is a cult. It operates by manipulating people. My aunt, who also left, converted from Catholicism when she was a single mother in her 20s who needed help. The church gave her a network of tangible support and got her through a vulnerable, scary time in her life–and used that
my favourite instagram account is “wheredoesthepeecomeout” and it’s run by a girl who asks men on tinder where cis women pee from and then documents their answers
See I’ve seen like 600 variations of this meme and I gotta tell you a Story.
The year is 2012. It’s Christmas. It’s the first year my sister and I are both home from college, and we’re feeling kind of nostalgic, so we take out the old family photo albums to remember everyone from times past. We’re all on the couch or the floor with hot chocolate and the Dog is curled up under the tree. It’s all very Norman Rockwell.
We’re going through my Mom’s side of the family, laughing at the pictures of Grandma putting wrapping paper on the dog, and grandpa pulling faces at the camera, when we find an old brown envelope.
“The fuck? says my sister, because she’s been in to Great-Aunt Liz’s Rumballs, and I open the envelope. Inside are four tickets to the titanic, unused, and Mom tells us the story of how her ancestors ALMOST came over on the Titanic, but Great-Aunt Liz got the measles and forced everyone into quarantine, thus saving their lives.
The OTHER thing in the envelope are seven Photographs, dated 1890. They are of my Great-Great Grandmother.
They are nudes.
They are NOT tasteful nudes.
Like, these are Violating-Terms-Of-Service-On-Most-Platforms- OBSCENE.
GGG had these taken waaaaay back in ye olden days, in order to convince her wayward husband to move back to England after he ditched her to party it up in Chicago.
I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW FUCKING HARD WE LAUGHED. Like, I think I passed out I was laughing so hard.
So yes, people have ALWAYS been like this, and your nudes will make for a hilarious family Christmas someday.
I’m trying to figure out the logistics of 19th century nudes. Did she hire someone to take and develop the photos?
As a photographer, I can confirm that, yes, she did. Or she was friends with a photographer. In the days before digital photography caught on, if you had a darkroom and a reputation for discretion, women would come to you to develop their film or take the actual pictures. And, let me tell ya, when a woman shows up and says “take pictures of me naked”, most people who are sexually attracted to women say “Sure!”
I’m pretty sure I’ve replied to this post before, but I am doing it again suddenly confronted with a Random Memory.
There was a movie called “Punch Line”, starring Tom Hanks as a comedian (and Sally Field as a housewife learning to be a comedian). At one point, Tom Hanks is being heckled on stage, and he asks the guy “Hey, do you have any naked pictures of your girlfriend? No? Would you like to buy some?” And for a (thankfully short) period of time, this entered popular culture as a thing guys said to degrade other men.
At this particular point in time, I was male-passing enough that nobody (even me) questioned it, but not perfectly male-passing, so I was the kind of person guys would build themselves up by tearing down. That’s how I found myself having the following conversation:
“Hey, man, you got any pictures of your girlfriend naked?”
“Yeah.”
“Would you – wait, what?”
“Yes, I have pictures of my girlfriend naked.”
“Bullshit.”
“I’m a photographer. Wait a second. Aren’t you Kevin?”
“…yes.”
“I have photos of your girlfriend naked.” (To be clear, I wasn’t outing her. She had the photos on the wall of her apartment and had given copies to practically everyone she knew.)
The last time I responded to this post, I think I did a bit about how the women I photographed in the 90s are now approaching 50 and are glad they did it. But there’s another point.
In the 1990s, I probably took photos of a hundred different women in varying stages of undress. And the thing that would surprise you most is who those women were. Yes, there were the exhibitionists like Kevin’s girlfriend, and yes, some of these were the girls who were known with sleeping with everyone. But… also, like, just… women.
I was not the only photographer who had two portfolios– one I could show to anyone, and one that I had to sift through before showing it to a given person because I was allowed to use them only if I was showing them to people who didn’t know them. (And a whole mess of photos I wasn’t allowed to show ANYONE because they were just for the model and/or her partner.)
And, I must stress, this was the 1990s, when naked selfies required either risking a photomat (where they would be in the hands of a complete stranger who could make copies easily) or talking to someone like me.
The advent of digital photography did not cause women to lose modesty. It just made it easier for them to control their own sexual expression.
She’s actually “correct” in a nefarious way by asking you to Google it yourself because, yeah, OP is wrong. He doesn’t use child slavery to source lithium…
He uses child slavery to source cobalt to make lithium batteries
So by asking you to do your own research on the lithium sources, she’s derailing in his favor.
This is the same tactic the United States Atomic Energy Comission (now just the Department of Energy) intentionally misinformed uranium miners, mine owners, mill employees, and the general public during the uranium boom in the 40s-60s.
The AEC would put together “informational” seminars, videos, and presentations as propaganda for mine staff, miners, downwinders, the public, anyone involved. Their main tactic was the insistence that “Uranium is so weakly radioactive, it presented no hazard in uranium mines ” and while that is *technically* correct, Uranium isnt what kills you, its the Radium and Radon that Uranium decomposes into… the VERY carefully selected words by people headong organisation are always insidious. Dont expect them to mean anything but exactly what they say.
The worst part is this tactic WORKS and we need to be pointing out the other part of the story not being told by these people whos only agenda is to grow their bank account while sacrificing human lives.
how effective? if youve played fallout you may have heard on the radio the real world song from the 40s ‘uranium fever’ about people who were hoping to strike it rich by literally just wandering around the desert with a giger counter hoping to find deposits of radioactive material they could then prospect and sell like they were stinky pete finding gold nuggets. the misinformation was that widespread
thats a real chunk of history that is so bonkers you can use it as satire right under peoples noses and they dont register its disturbing meaning
